Yesterday I picked my son up from daycare and was told he was bit twice by the same boy. Not once but TWICE. The teacher played it off like it was nothing, and I signed the accident report.
We got home and I went to look at his arm and I about flipped out. The way the teachers played it off I was thinking it was nothing and he probably didn’t even have a mark. Well nope, he had a mark and a huge one at that.
This picture doesn’t even do it justice because he wouldn’t stop moving.
Here is the back story on the bites. (what the teacher told me)
A little boy wanted a toy that Jeremiah had, Jeremiah wouldn’t give it to him. The little boy tried to pull it away from Jeremiah but Jeremiah wouldn’t let go so this boy bit him.
My question is, why did the teachers not move that boy away from Jeremiah after that? Instead they made it so this little boy had the opportunity to bite Jeremiah a SECOND time.
To say I was furious yesterday might be an understatement. I posted the picture and the story on both my personal Facebook and my Facebook page for my blog.
The response from people on my personal page (which includes people who work in daycares) was “that’s unacceptable”, “press charges”, “raise hell”, etc.
Now I do agree that it is unacceptable for the fact that this little boy had a chance to bite my son twice. But press charges?
First of all, I signed the accident report that states the daycare told me about it and that they are in no way responsible. And second of all, it’s not like my son was beat. He was bit by a little boy. (this is the first time anything like this has happened, well except for the bullying. If you missed that post here it is bullying)
The response from my fellow autism parents was more compassionate for the child and or the teachers.
My son is the only child with any kind of special needs in his classroom. This child did not bite because he was excited, over stimulated, etc. He bit because he was angry that Jeremiah wouldn’t give up the toy and after trying other options, bitting was his last resort.
As for the teachers, there are maybe 10 kids in Jeremiah’s class and 3 teachers. It’s not like they were too overwhelmed with kids that they couldn’t do something. It was the afternoon teachers, who were the same teachers there when the bullying incident happened.
Jeremiah still had a pretty good mark on his arm this morning and did not want to go to daycare at all. (I don’t blame him)
If something like this happens again I will not be signing an accident report and I will be talking to the owner of the daycare.
Do you think I did the right thing/handled it well?
(btw I always thought I was going to get a call saying my child bit someone, not the other way around. At home when he is excited, overstimulated, or under stimulated he will either bite us or bite himself. But at school he controls himself enough to not “lash out”.)