My new business venture

My husband and I have decided to start a business. We will be making tools/toys geared towards autism.

I’ve already made my son customized pecs, file folder games, puzzles, etc.

What is available to parents right now, even home made stuff, costs an arm and a leg. I’m determined to make my products and make them affordable for everyone.

One of the first things I will be making will be autism survival guides. Kind of like “so your child’s been diagnosed, now what?” The last page of the survival guide will be customized for each person who orders it. It will be important numbers, non profits, and everything autism related in whatever city they live in.

Good idea??

So far everyone I’ve talked to fully supports me. I’m ready to embark on this endeavor.

Aggression

My mom and I have been discussing my son’s violent/aggressive behavior. She says “I hope this stops before he’s a 6ft tall teenager beating you up.”

She thinks his behavior is not normal. I relate it to his autism. Are autistic kids more aggressive then “normal” kids, or is she right in saying this has nothing to do with autism?

I’ve read autism blogs that discuss biting and hitting but they are few and far between.

I know part of my son’s behaviors are due to him being non verbal. He gets so frustrated that no one is understanding what he’s saying that he lashes out.

But that’s only part of it. Let’s take today for example. He was extremely hyper and flappy all day. He was also the most violent he’s ever been in one day.

We’d be sitting down watching a movie and he’ll run over and punch me or bite me. The biting me part is new. He used to ONLY bite his dad. (not that that’s any good either).

I still have a huge bite mark on my wrist from where he bit me this morning while I was trying to get him to take his antibiotic.

He is constantly screaming, pushing, punching (yes punching, closed fist and all), slapping, spitting, and biting.

He has never seen anyone act out any of these behaviors, so I strongly believe it is not learned.

His daycare swears he’s the sweetest angel there and there have been no incidents of aggressive behavior. He does it around people he knows (parents, grandparents, and friends). He also does it when we go out in public.

I know some of it is the “terrible twos” but I can’t help but think its not all related to that.

Please tell me I’m not alone here. Please tell me that I’m right in thinking it has to do with his autism. Or tell me I’m wrong. I’m man enough to handle it.

I’d greatly appreciate it if you could share your stories, advice, or experiences with me.

Handling the stuff life throws at you

“When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.”

I have a very hard time doing that. Life has sure thrown a ton of lemons at me, and I don’t think I’ve handled them properly.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately and I have completely changed how I felt. My son is diagnosed with severe ASD. He is 2 and non verbal. He can repeat or echo words (he has echolalia). As far as words he can say on his own with no prompting what so ever there are only a few.

I used to cry picking him up from daycare when the kids in his class (that are his age) said “bye Jeremiah”. I cried because he couldn’t say his own name but kids his age could.

I used to cry when he would get frustrated and scream because I couldn’t understand what it was he was trying to tell me he needed.

He can not talk and yet his insurance will only approve 30min of speech a week. I know parents whose kids can talk, they just stutter or have a severe lisp, etc and they get speech therapy everyday.

I used to scream that it wasn’t fair. I used to go nuts thinking about it.

But I’ve come to the realization that at least he is getting therapy. He may not ever talk and that’s okay. He is one of the brightest little boys I know. He also has more manners than any 2 year old I’ve ever met. He can sign please and thank you, and does so often.

He can take toys apart and put them back together. He has the biggest smile ever when he sees mommy and daddy come pick him up from daycare. He licks my face and tries to act like the dog. (weird? Yes. But it never fails to make me laugh.)

I love him for everything he can do and for what he has taught me about life.

I promise to him and I promise to myself that I will not focus on what he can’t do anymore. I will focus on all the things he can do.

I know it’s easier to see the can’t dos, but if you try and focus on the can dos, you just might be able to make lemonade with the lemons.

Perfect weather

Lately the weather has been less than perfect. It’s been either super hot or raining. We just got over the rain and today was the best. Hot but with a nice breeze blowing. I decided to seize the day and take my son to the park. He kept screaming no when I tried to take pictures but I got some anyways. Hope it’s lovely where you guys are.

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Those touchy subjects

There are a few parts of autism that are considered “touchy subjects” and some people don’t like talking about them.

One of those subjects is poop smearing. Most of us have been through or are currently going through it.

I thought we had nipped it in the bud. But the evil poop smearing monster is back. :-/

My son started the poop smearing in November. Anytime he pooped if you didn’t change him immediately, it would end up on his hands, in his hair, on his face, on his stomach, and even IN his mouth!

Our occupational therapist suggested it was a sensory thing so giving him play doh or something else that felt like poop might help him stop. We also worked really hard on getting him to say the word “dodo” and know what it was.

Once we did those things the smearing stopped, he told us every time he pooped, and he felt like a big boy because of it.

We were doing so great. Four months smearing free until a week ago. Now instead of telling people he went potty he is now taking his diaper off and then playing in it. 😦

I try to keep a close eye on him, but to watch him 24/7 is just not an option. I do use the bathroom, cook, etc.

So my question to you is; how do I stop this? Has there been any techniques that have worked for you?